Awesome Mama Birth I View

                ( This is you deflecting bullshit) For all new mothers and mums to be..... My message to you.... Say NO to the ridiculous expectations of society... Say NO to 'getting your flat tummy back' because that's what the media tells us we should do. Say NO to the worry of a messy house...just CHOOSE not to worry. Say NO to the thousands and thousands of opinions from others about how you should raise YOUR baby because people are seeking to validate their own views and choices ( it's their shit, not yours). Say NO to the neighbour who you've spoken to ONCE before about the bins but who now wants to visit the baby and stay for hours! Actually, say NO to visitors period if that's what you want. Say NO to being the "perfect" mother because THAT SHIT JUST DON'T EXIST. Say NO to putting on makeup if you just don't feel like it today. Or any day. Say NO to trying to prove to the world that you are 'loving every moment'

So I'm sure most of you have seen some Pregnant Comedies in your time. Most come out of Hollywood and follow similar paradigms such as a focus on the ( usually) boyfriend's unpreparedness for a baby, or rather what a baby symbolises about their life. The birth scene usually begins with mum's waters EXPLODING in a shopping mall or somewhere similar and an immediate rush to hospital as contractions are instantly unbearable. But has it ever occured to you how similar these birth scenes are to horror genre films? Think of how the birthing woman looks and sounds.....Red face, sweaty, angry expression, shouting at boyfriend and/or doctors and nurses. SHE IS OUT OF CONTROL. UNPREDICTABLE. SCARY. A MONSTER. In the horror genre it is often the case that for a female character to become powerful she must become a monster. You cant just be a woman and have power, oh no no no! You have to be craaaaaazzzzzy! Or  masculine. Sometimes both. Of course the comedy ( apparently, alth

Did you know that if you are laying on your back your pelvis is up to 30% smaller in diametre than when you are upright? 30%....almost a third...that is a hell of a lot! How do they know this? Well there actually is evidence to support this. Research where x-ray scans were taken of women birthing upright and laying down and the pictures were measured. I always feel so incredibly grateful to all of these awesome women who have consented to being part of these studies for the benefit of all of us. Let us take heed of this message. I'll say it again...30%!!. Not only is your pelvis smaller, but laying flat on your back makes the line of your vagina angle upwards. A baby trying to get through a tight space....tavelling UP HILL! No bloody wonder so many women need help in the way of medical intervention when this is the position being promoted in many hospitals. And do not be fooled into thinking this is how it's always been done. It isn't. In fact there is a lot of evid

It may surprise you to learn that hypnobirthing is not about the PERFECT birth. It is about the BEST birth for you and your baby, whatever that looks like on the day.  It's about believing that knowing is better than not knowing and that that knowledge could make the difference between emerging from birth victorious or broken because KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. It's about believing you have rights to be respected in childbirth, rights to compassion and sensitivity from those caring for you. It's about knowing the value of unwavering support. It's about addressing and releasing anxieties and the freedom that gives you to enjoy your pregnancy and birth to the full.  It's about confidence and control and taking responsibility. It's about your birthing partner just as much as it is about you. It's about stripping back the layers of our culture that has negatively shaped our perception of birth. It's about believing that you deserve something be

It's about time we woke the hell up and started recognising the awesomeness of women. When did that happen? I mean, when was the point at which motherhood became unappreciated in our society? Mothers get appreciated on a personal scale. We all are fully aware that our own mothers shaped who we are in a profound way. For most, if we were born lucky, we were welcomed by the loving arms of our mother who selflessly gave, gave and gave again to us. For the terribly unlucky, the lack of a mother's love has also shaped who we are. We recognise and appreciate on a personal level but what about a societal level? Somehow we have lost our way, perhaps sometime around when it became the norm to be a working mum and "have it all"? We have lost our cultural appreciation of the mother. Yes it takes two to make a baby but actually it is the mother's body that nurtures and allows life. It is her that gives over her body for another ( the first act of selflessness). It is  mir

Did you know the same reflexes are working when we are giving birth and when we are having a poo? THE SAME! And if you think about it a little it actually makes sense.....it is no surprise that a lot of babies are born in the bathroom...some actually right there down the loo bowl bless them! When we need to poo we go to a place where we are unobserved and safe. What happens when your kid starts banging on the door because they have spent 30 seconds without you and cannot cope any longer? Well things don't flow the way they should right? And worse still what would happen if an absolute stranger walked in and started watching you trying to do a shit? And even worse still,  started prodding around down there? Why does my three year old know what the majority in our maternity system don't? In our household we have recently being trying to crack the old toilet training and I was feeling chuffed that my youngest son, Eli was getting dryer by the day and having fewer wet acc